My Russian Tour 5

5. You’ve got mail and: now what do you do with it?

From today’s perspective I believe it is important to draw a very clear picture of the woman you want to meet. Don’t be in any doubt: there ARE women in Russia that seek foreign husbands, and at least some of them will be interested in you. If you have a clear image of your Ideal Woman, you will see straight away who is not Her. My problem was I did not have such an image in my mind. I did have some ideas but because of my uncertainty whether Russian women would find me attractive I hesitated to express them clearly even for myself and would probably settle for the second best.

After a few days of uncertainty about my first bunch of letters the answer suggested itself: I will send my photos to Irina from St. Petersburg and will correspond with her. The rest I will put on ice until I receive more letters in the weeks to come. I wrote my letter to Irina and mailed it the same week.

That week I was dreaming and wondering what I would do if there were many more of this type of girls: attractive, intelligent, educated, non-smokers and in my specified age group. I would prefer somebody that was older than Irina. I said to myself, if there were nobody else that I would be interested in, I would keep on corresponding with Irina to get to know her better, and then make a decision. Actually I was lucky in not receiving many letters from women that were very attractive to me. If there were, let’s say, 20 girls like Irina, it would have been very difficult to make a choice, because I definitely was not ready to correspond with 20 girls at a time! I was too busy for that.

At the time I placed my ad I was 43 and I was looking for a woman from 28 to 35. The reason why I chose this age group was that I was hoping to have kids with her and the most important fact for me was that she would want to settle down.